"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." Proverbs 4:23
Going through adolescence in the 80's was major! Coming of age during this era, I was exposed to all types of visual and mental influences by way of television and radio. (no Internet back then, can you imagine...) One song that I remember clearly was by our dear old friend Madonna: "Open your heart to me, baby. I'll give you love if you hold the key. Open your heart to me, darling. I'll give you love if you, you turn the key." Now, besides the fact that Madonna is wrong on so many levels, I enjoyed her music back then. This one song in particular speaks volumes about the culture and mindset that was dominant at the time and still is today - an open heart.
Many times we see women who are love sick, or love crazy, because they have let a man into their heart and he didn't know what to do with the prize he had been given. We have all been there! Thinking that if we open our heart and show a man how great we are inside that he will fall madly in love, stay in love, and put us on the queens' throne in his life. Then we wake up from our dream with swollen eyes, a heavy heart, tear soaked pillows and soggy tissues all over the bed. God built us to love and to be loved. The issue is not whether to love, it is rather who we receive love from and who we give our love to.
I was reading the book "Every Woman's Battle" by Shannon Ethridge, and in it she gives such a clear understanding of the magnitude of our heart's capacity to love and what that means is God's eyes.
"I believe the answer is in he word wellspring, which can also be interpreted as 'source'. The heart is the source of life. When God created us, He made our hearts central to our being - physically, spiritually, and emotionally."
Would you give someone your power source? Especially if they haven't proven worthy to have it? Many of us would need several sets of hands to count the men we have had a physical connection with. Maybe only one hand to count those with whom we had an emotional connection. But when is comes to a spiritual connection...silence, crickets, no comment. (If you can't say Amen, just say ouch. Ouch!) Why then would we open our heart to a man who is not our husband, or one who is not hearing from God as the focus and center of his life?
Your ability to guard your heart is paramount to preserving the precious, life giving gift that God has blessed you with. God knows your need and desire to be brought to the throne of grace. He is ready to give you the desires of your heart! But He wants you to guard your heart, leaving it open and accessible to Him first. When we guard our hearts against the tricks and schemes of the devil we allow access to our Saviour Jesus Christ. He loves us without conditions. He loves us eternally.
Don't use this as a rationale for blocking any and all interest or advance from a man - you are too fly to become a bitter spinster! But be discerning, be vigilant, be wise in your decisions regarding who to spend your precious time and interest with. A spring is eternal, ever bubbling and refreshing; a well is purposed to make the bounty from the spring accessible. Protect your eternal refreshment ladies, keep it accessible to God. Guard your heart girls, above all else! Amen.